Being an introvert does not automatically mean having bad relationships with others, and falling short of any success just because extroverts are more assertive. However, it may turn out that way when introverts are not aware of unnecessary mistakes coming out of their nature. It does not mean trying to change one’s personality, but just to focus on a few key things in interpersonal communication. Sophia Dembling who writes about introverts in her books, has pointed out the following unnecessary mistakes of introverts in the Psychology Today server.
Excessive isolation
Being alone for a long time does not help anyone. Once you begin to feel uneasy in your solitude, it’s time to call your friends and meet them in person.
Inability to call back
Most introverts hate calls. However, this does not mean that they should ignore the people who try to get them by telephone. If someone important calls and does not reach you, call him/her back or at least send an e-mail.
Avoiding social conversation
Introverts prefer to communicate about specific issues and hate “just talking”. However, if they go out and are supposed to behave and look to act friendly, it is always necessary to start with a small talk.
Too many words
Nervous introverts may also manifest just the opposite tendency – talking about insignificant things without a break. If this is your case, always observe the reaction of the others. You will recognize very easily if your monologue is too long.
Being paralyzed by fear
Despite his/her introversion and shyness introvert should never allow to be paralyzed by fear. If you really are unable to call someone, go to a social event or start a conversation with someone, it’s time to look for the cause of your fear and you might be better off to seek out professional help.
Denouncing social contacts as a loss of time
Not all social events are unnecessary and not all extroverts are shallow. Even talks about topics that are not deadly important do not necessarily have to be a waste of time.
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