These tips were published by the Open Forum website.
Be personal
The person you are talking to must feel you are authentic rather than trying to be someone you are not. Talk about your hobbies and mutual interests, or use any other way to get on the same wavelength as the other person.
Say what you want
Honesty, being straightforward and not beating around the bush: all this has a positive effect on people, who can see you are not trying to sugarcoat anything. Be honest and state directly what it is you want.
Make the other person feel good about helping you
You must explain everything in such a way that the other person feels good about doing what you want them to do. This can be achieved, for example, by telling them only they are capable of doing it and everyone is depending on them.
Use positive words
Everything can be said in various ways. Use predominantly positive words that refer to action, cooperation, change, improvement, development. Avoid negative words.
Give a false sense of choice
People do not like to be cornered. They want to believe they were the one making a particular decision. You should always offer more than one possibility but you can formulate the alternatives in such a way that ensures the other person will go for the option you yourself prefer.
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