When something goes wrong, we automatically start wondering why it happened. Then we blame ourselves, other people or various external factors. This may take quite a long time, but finally we are so exhausted that we decide to leave the past behind and focus on the future.
This mental process, however, has one big disadvantage. Besides being difficult and painful, it does not prevent us from making the same mistakes again and again.
How can you handle your setbacks better and take lessons from them? Try the simple technique of counterfactual thinking.
